Narcissists Hypersensitive? To What?
Referring to yesterday's post... the fact that narcissists aren't retaliating against some perceived slight shouldn't surprise us the way it does. For, it stands to reason. An analogy illustrates.
If you think you need all the dollars in the world, you will compete with everyone for every single dollar. No matter how many you already have and how in need of a dollar someone else is.
This attitude makes you a callous adversary of every other person in the world.
What's more, if you see a dollar in someone else's pocket, you will want to take it away from him. Just because he has it. In other words, you will view him as something to despoil, as a predator views prey.
Well, just change "dollar" in that analogy to "respect" (or regard, appreciation, glowing reputation, or any other form of attention) and you are describing a narcissist.
We know that animal predators aren't (counter)attacking their prey in retaliation for any offense, don't we? How do we know that? Because the predator doesn't stop attacking when the prey tries to flee.
No ifs ands or buts about that. That is proof positive of the predator's pure aggression.
And it's the same with narcissists. They CAN'T be attacking in retaliation for any offense. Because they too, just intensify their attack when the other party backs down, tries to appease, tries to flee, or shows any other sign of weakness. Just like an animal predator does.
Now, many people don't want to believe this. But they have to defy the absolute truth of inescapable logic to unbelieve it.
Yes, I know, it's politically incorrect to say that the mentally ill are "bad." Then maybe we should consider malignant narcissism and psychopathy character disorders, not mental illnesses. Whatever. The truth is true, politically correct or not. And sometimes it takes a backbone to know what we know.
In fact, if you do slight a narcissist, in my experience, depending on the circumstances, he may, or may not retaliate. Usually not, and I think this is because narcissists prefer sneak attacks on someone not expecting it.
So, in the vast majority of cases I have seen, there is NO REASON for them to get mad. None. Zilch. In fact, there is often anti-reason for them to get mad. For example, in most circumstances, telling a narcissist you love him is sure to set him off.
That's one reason why their attacks are so effective: they are surprise attacks, using shock tactics.
"Sensitive"? My a**. They aren't sensitive at all.
But of course these pathological liars lie about that. Of course they make excuses by accusing the victim of having hurt them in some way. But it's foolish to believe pathological liars on this, especially when the WAY they attack proves that they aren't just trying to make somebody else stop doing something.
To the contrary, it proves that they are feeding their egos by vaunting themselves on others as powerfully as they can = they are predators.
It's absurd to think the victim offends narcissists in some way to provoke these attacks. Yeah, right, by acting like a human being, his equal, by expecting a little consideration - instead of playing the part of insignificant bug compared to him - you are insulting him. Right. But only in the twisted mind of a narcissist.
Considering the narcissist "hypersensitive" because the victim's self respect "hurts" him is as twisted as he is.