How do you win the game a narcissist plays?
You don't. At least, I know of no way to win it, and I don't think there is one. Irrationality and perversity are invincible.
So, it's a catch-22. You can fight all the time, which is no way to live. Or, you can just take it, which is no way to live.
What would "winning" be, anyway?