Are Narcissists Unable to Control Themselves?
If you know a malignant narcissist, you already know the answer to that question. Here's an example that fits their MO.
Narcissist walks into a room. There is a young, unmarried female colleague or his wife. He takes a quick glance around and sees that no one else is there. Then he abuses the woman, cruelly mocking her in some shocking way.
Several hours later, he enters the same room. There she is again. But this time a half-dozen other people are present as well. He goes up to her and accosts her in the friendliest tone, complimenting her on something and just really gobbing the make-up on his image.
There. That's dispensing with the gobbledygook of fuzzy abstractions and stating the proposition in concrete terms that even a professor of psychology can understand. The scenario I described above is the MO of the narcissist. It is common knowledge, and no one denies it.
Now, ask that question again: Are those poor, poor narcissists unable to control themselves?
And, by the way, what was that song and dance about them not "meaning" to hurt people?
If the narcissist resisted his predatory urges the second time, he could have resisted them the first time.
Reasonable people can and do disagree about many things, but this is not one of them. There is a definite right and wrong answer to this question, and only the willfully blind and irrational refuse to know that narcissists can and do control their behavior.
In fact, they calculate it.
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