A Narcissist's Strange Relationships
A narcissist's strange relationship with himself has many ramifications for his relationship to others, which is just as warped.
He relates to himself as a fictional character. He also authors the story.
Everyone has a personal narrative, but a narcissist's gives new meaning to the term.
He relates to you as but a character, not a real person.
Now, imagine you're a novelist writing away, and some character comes out on the page telling you that, no, the story doesn't go this way: it goes that way.
Bizarre, eh? Well, in a way, that's what you are doing when you contradict the narcissist's fantasy. He has utter, utter contempt for reality and truth. He is the creator of his own universe, which he makes up on the fly.
He is like a little child playing Pretend with her friends. She wants to author the story, and her little friends must just play along. She will stamp her foot and yell at a playmate who doesn't like the role she's assigned him and cry, "NO! You're not supposed to that! You're supposed to do this!"
Narcissists don't dare admit that this is what they're up to with their pathological lying. Probably they repress consciousness of it themselves. But this is what they're doing when they tell you bizarre lies that they (should) know you couldn't possibly believe.
They don't want you to BELIEVE it. They just want you to play along. They just want you act as though it's true. They want you not to contradict their fantasy. For, you make it hard for them to maintain their delusions when you don't play along.
That's all they want.
You are nothing but a bit character in a story all about them.
Characters aren't persons. Characters aren't human beings with minds and thoughts and feelings. They are figments. Ask any narcissist what they think you think. They will gape at you as if the question doesn't make sense. You might as well ask him what his screw driver thinks.
One might as well have asked Shakespeare what he thought Hamlet thinks about the play.
Hamlet ain't a person. He's just a character. A caricature. A piece on the author's chess board.
And so are you in the smoke and mirrors of a narcissist's world, which is the Twilight Zone.
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