A little more on feelings
Something I learned from tennis.
It is probably best to keep your feelings to yourself out there. The greatest players usually do. Pete Sampras, Chris Evert, Bjorn Borg.
They weren't phonies, acting as though their feelings were different than they really were. These players simply kept their feelings to themselves. Bjorn Borg, for example, would afterwards say that he was so nervous he could hardly hold the racket. But you couldn't tell that by watching him.
I have a friend who says he never believes anything his mind tells him during a tennis match. Which is the best advice I've ever heard.
But let's say that you have listened to your stupid mind and that it is getting to you. Maybe you do need to blow off a little steam, as a result. So long as you control your behavior to keep it within acceptable norms, it won't hurt anything.
Though it migh boost your opponent's morale. And that's certainly no good. Which is why it's usually best done with a touch of humor.
This might help with your narcissist, since narcissists compete with the other party in every interaction.
It may be best to keep your feelings to yourself. But that doesn't mean that you must be a phony. It doesn't mean that you must repress your feelings and delude yourself about what they really are. For, doing that is bad for you.
But does your N need to see an expression of those feelings? What's the point when an N just reacts perversely to them?
He or she will see through any phony facade you try to put on and smell blood. But if you just give NO reaction, that's different. That is not what an N wants.
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