Is there such a thing as non-compensatory NPD?
People are getting diagnosed as having NPD just because they have authority and won't cave in to angry demands or because they are haughty and inconsiderate and think they're God's gift to the world.
On the Main Website and in the eBook I carefully explain the difference between narcissism and malignant narcissism. The former is just a trait that exists to some extent in all and is healthy so long as people don't go delusional and get drunk on it.
The personality disordered are much different. They twist everything. They abuse any vulnerable prey because treating others like dirt makes them feel better about themselves. "Compensation," anyone? It's like they have to eat people (in the moral sense of the word). They have an alien mentality because they are predators. They fire people and calumniate them to boost themselves. They see someone down and have to kick them, for the same reason a drunk goes for the bottle in his desk drawer the moment his office is empty. These are twisted people with a need to hurt others, to feel their power over others that way. "Malignance," anyone? They get a you-know-what out of sticking to people. They do it to repress awareness of how inferior they feel inside. "Exploiting others," anyone? Like...uh...like a vampire maybe? Others must bleed for their sake.
Doesn't that say it in a nutshell? And it's all just a superiority act to kill a deep seated feeling of inferiority, duh.
How come I don't see the word "predaceous" on this list of names this theorist calls these people? The essence of these actions must have gone right over his head.
Malignant narcissists must make themselves pitiless to live by bleeding others to cause them suffering this way and they do. They are as pitiless as a psychopath, and the distinctions between psychopathy and NPD are disappearing in the literature. They are experts at mental cruelty because they do it all the time from childhood on. The harm NPD's do others to "feed" their egos means nothing to them - no more than squishing a bug means to you. They are so abnormal they prey thus even on their own children!
That's NPD. Which is why it's called "malignant." A far cry from a mere fat head, such as you might find in a royal, a movie star, or a sports star (though some may indeed have NPD).
It's there in the diagnostic criteria, bigger than life. No empathy. Exploiting others. Envy.
If a person doesn't abuse and destroy others on their way through life, they don't have NPD. If they have humanity (not just faking it) toward their fellow human beings, they don't have NPD. If they don't go around tearing others down off pedestals, they don't have NPD. NPD does have the mentality of the rapist, who usually does have NPD.
People with a TRULY high opinion of themselves may be stuffy, supercilious and just generally obnoxious but they aren't THAT bad. Indeed, BECAUSE they truly do have a high opinion of themselves, they don't NEED to cut others down to feel good about themselves. Hence they aren't predatory or perverse at all. Just a pain in the neck.
Their narcissism is benign, and I explained that here. Someone with NPD is A Wolf in Sheep's Clothing, not just someone with a fat head.
So, what's this? If this is "compensatory" NPD, what does he think NPD is?
Kelly thinks people with NPD really do have a high opinion of themselves deep down inside? OMG.
This theory makes NPD no more than thinking you're God's gift to the world. What? Does Kelly think any real malignant narcissist is going to admit the feelings of inferiority he tries to keep repressed deep down inside? He wouldn't be a malignant narcissist if he would admit that!
More errors resulting from believing the self reports of these pathological liars.
All with NPD fit that description...and more.
This is a serious misconception because it is responsible for the la-dee-da attitude in mental-health-care and the rest of society toward NPD. They have it confused with inflated self esteem. No big deal. Irritating, maybe offensive at times, but no big deal.
Wrong. NPD IS a big deal. A very big deal.
narcissistic personality disorder