Monday, January 28, 2008

Worry, Worry, Worry

Malignant narcissists deal with the dirty, rotten things they do by denying how inferior it makes them to people with integrity. They do this by manufacturing delusions of its opposite - superiority.

They do this because they are emotional children, and this is the way little children handle unwanted truth. To counter it, they just let fly a yell that says the opposite. And they think that by yelling the opposite louder and more often than the truth, they make their lie the truth.

So, a malignant narcissist's delusions of superiority are a childish way of compensating for their repressed sense of moral inferiority. The lower they stoop, the grander they pretend to be.

But of course, they have no real substance to support their delusions of superiority, so they cheat. That is, instead of showing us how they are superior, they just show us how everybody else is inferior.

This is, of course, the mentality of the rapist, who must tear others down off that pedestal to feel superior to them.

This is why narcissists malign you and treat you like dirt. It's an act, a way of PRETENDING that you are the evil one and you are dirt compared to them. All children love to play Pretend.

In denying you these things, they are denying you human treatment. And, of course, failing to treat others like human beings is dehumanizing them. Which is why You Are an Object in a narcissist's eyes and are treated like one.

But they also despise mere human beings, thinking they're gods.

Both these brands of inhumanity are inhumanity. Are inhuman.

Narcissists often whine that regarding them as acting in malice is mean and nasty and dehumanizes them. But that's a non sequitur.

Even more ridiculous is their assertion that they are human because they have hurtable feelings.

Well, I'm sorry, but they can't have it both ways. They can't be a god, beneath whose feet all human beings are dirt, and be human at the same time.

Carrying ridiculousness to the utmost extreme, the notion that they are human because they have hurtable feelings would be hilarious if it weren't so pathetic.

Being human isn't having feelings for ONESELF, duh!

A dog has something closer to humanity than that. So, what level are down to here? The level of birds, maybe? They have feelings for themselves. But, yes, even birds have feelings for others. They have feelings for their offspring and sometimes apparently for their mates. So, we are down to the level of a cold-blooded animal. Even cold-blooded animals have feelings for themselves!

Does that make them human?

Newsflash: Humanity is having humane feelings for all living souls and having human feelings for human beings. Another way of putting it: Humanity is relating humanely to animals and humanly to human beings.

Some folks choose to have it and some don't.

It is worrying that narcissists don't. Very worrying. Very, very worrying. Something for worry warts to worry themselves to distraction about. And to worry everyone else on the planet about (like a pack of wolves worrying its prey).

So, I think it's about time worrisome academia started worrying itself and everyone else about THAT instead of so much worrying about the truth hurting a brutal abuser's tender, tender feelings.

Again, I point out that thus enabling them by relieving them of THEIR responsibility does not help narcissists one bit. Academia is doing nothing to encourage them to rejoin the human race.

They think they're so smart while making this egregious error in logic: If hurting others makes you feel good, you like hurting others. If you like hurting others, you hurt them out of malice. Facing facts about the malice in the heart of a narcissist is just that, period. It doesn't hurt them. It doesn't persecute them. It doesn't mean that no one should try to help them. It isn't hating them. It's just being honest. Not clueless. Not born yesterday.

Like as we are about tigers - we know that they would love to eat us and don't pretend that they don't. It would be crazy to pretend that they don't.

Academia has a very, very worrying empathy deficit for these predators' victims.

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At 12:30 PM, Anonymous holywatersalt said...

I can follow what you write now- it's logical, gospel to me now. But WOW--was it a learning curve.

I never undeerstood why someone who discarded and disemboweled me was angry when I stayed away. I thought they were sorry- nope wrong again as they hissed at me.

So why the looks and constant intrusion into my life? Because I am a mirror. My admiration was food for them, but my refusal to be objectified meant I was cracked. They keep checking to see if I am willing to reflect what they crave, admiration. I was good NS, premium. I gave them every benefit of the doubt, until one day I saw clearly. That was it.

Yet they still try, just yesterday they were mimicking me- I finally understand. They float around me, because I refuse to speak and ignore them...but there they are.
Now it's staring and proxies.

I believe they don't like me, find me repulsive- I believe I am dirt to them, and I know they are so sick...they crave a fix from that what they consider crap because what does it say about them, taht crap doesn't want them?

That's it- I'd cry, if I wasn't so spent and relieved to be done with them.

Thanks Kathy---I can't say it enough what your blog has taught me. We need to get you a superhero cape....N-Crusher: Who's that UNmasked avenger? It's N-Crusher
(OK, someone think of a better name!)

At 1:16 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have been through the ringer with an N. Now, I no longer feel any compassion for that person.

There is a young N in the making in one of my child's sport activities. This child is always bullying others, poking, arm twisting, anything to hurt the other children, in a sneaky, underhanded way. He is clever and an opportunist, so most of this goes unnoticed, except to parents sitting on the sidelines watching. The other day, he got a spontaneous nosebleed and tried to blame one of the other children. No one had touched him. And so, he walked to the sidelines and everybody watched as his nose bled. The instructor took care of it. Does this make us less than human, or is it a natural protective reaction to withdraw and avoid an N (perhaps fearing that we, too, would be accused of harming him if we stepped up to help?).

And my goodness, this N behavior starts young.

At 5:54 PM, Blogger Kathy said...

>Does this make us less than human, or is it a natural protective reaction to withdraw and avoid an N (perhaps fearing that we, too, would be accused of harming him if we stepped up to help?).<

The question is not whether YOU are human. Ns are preators. Ns are predators. Ns are predators.

If a tiger has a thorn in its paw are you inhuman if you don't go into its cage to pull it out?

They have no claim on your life. You do not have to sacrifice yourself to them for their sakes.

If you get anywhere near them, if you have anything to do with them they WILL use you. Indeed, no good deed you do for them will go unpunished. They are predators. You have a right to stay away from them. Don't you think so?

At 9:19 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I find it offending that you would insult Tigers by comparing them to N's. Tigers are magestic, wild, untamed and free! Yes, they'd eat you, but that is beside the point lmao!! GREAT entry! I LOVE this blog!!

At 6:03 AM, Blogger sonicido said...

This reminds me of that silly man who went to live with the grizzly bears and thought he was "one" with them. He actually thought that they thought of him as family!
A bear eventually ripped off his head and that of his girlfriend's...

Treadwell was known for his confidence around bears. He often touched them, and gave them names. Once he was filmed crawling along the ground singing as he approached a sow and two cubs.

Over the years, Park Service officials, biologists and others expressed concern about his safety and the message he was sending.
php?id=1&display=rednews/2003/10/08/build/nation/ - 13k -

What message are WE sending about the grizzly humans in our life?

At 6:06 AM, Blogger sonicido said...

Over all, they are probably more comparable to a grizzly bear. But "wild animal" sums them up better.

At 7:43 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...


Thank you.

'Nuff said.

Actually not: Thank You again!



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