What About Your Children?
Parents ask whether they should leave a narcissist to get their children away from the predator.
Easy for me to say.
Don't assume that it all goes over your kids' heads. And though narcissists do treat everyone differently, it isn't because some persons appeal to their (dead) hearts. Narcissism EXPLOITS everyone as an object, even those they flatter, dote on, and suck up to. "If they're not at your feet, they're at your throat," but in either case they're just USING you, playing you for a fool.
Think how it makes anyone feel when it dawns on us that someone has just been using us.
This is a terrible decision to have to make in many cases. I'm glad I never had to make it.
I suggest that you talk to the grown children of narcissists. Ask them how the narcissistic parent made them feel. Ask them what they thought about him/her and themselves as a child. Ask them if any of their siblings acquired NPD. Ask them what they wish their non-narcissistic parent had done and why.
There are some online groups of adult children of narcissists that I think you can read even without being a member.
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